Being a mom is tough. I'm not only talking about midnight feedings and emergency room visits and rushing from cheer practice to football games to the grocery store and back. For some reason becoming a mom usually brings along something known as Mom Guilt.
I inherited a huge dose of this and I am trying to muddle through and find a way out. We tend to feel guilty about things we have no control over. When we work full time we feel guilty for spending so much time away from the kids, when we stay at home we feel guilty for not being perfect. Am I ruining my kids? Are they going to grow up and hate their mom and regret their lousy childhood? Why can't I afford to buy my kids the newest best stuff? Maybe if I sacrificed a little more of myself I could make life better for my kids.
ENOUGH!
When God created us He created a beautiful thing. He graced mothers with compassion, love, understanding, strength, and the ability to raise her children so that they will rise and call her blessed.
There are times when I want to throw in the towel. I feel like a complete failure and like my girls will suffer because I'm their mother. My stress levels feel like they reach the danger zone and I need a mommy time-out. Say I take a couple hours to myself... know what comes along? Mom guilt. A dash of guilt for taking time to myself but also a dash of sanity. God created mothers to be incredibly strong but we are still human and need a tiny break sometimes. Usually after a small break I miss my girls so terribly that I just want to run back to them and hold them and rock them.
I guess I have said all of this to say this: Being a mom is tough. Yes, that has been established. Being a mom is worth it and in my opinion, the greatest job in the world. Children receive one childhood and as a mom it is my job to ensure mine have a healthy and happy one. I thank God for giving me two of his angels to raise in Him.
One thing to keep in mind - if you love your children, you are great mom! Maybe you don't have much money and can't buy them new things - You are a GREAT mother. Maybe you work two jobs and stay gone until time to put your children to bed - You are a GREAT mother. Maybe you stay home and feel like the majority of your day is scrubbing floors and walls and building pillow forts - You are a GREAT mother. Maybe you are a single mom doing your best to stay afloat - You are a GREAT mother. Maybe your kids are grown and you feel like you don't have a big influence on them anymore - You do and you are a GREAT mother. As moms we need to stick together. We need encouragement and reminders that we are enough. I think you are doing a great job!
I am going to finish this blog now since I have a four year old begging for some mommy time!!
